Thursday, October 31, 2013

Stairway to Heaven

I have not talked about it much yet, however our son is deaf (more coming in upcoming post). We are not adopting him because he is deaf. We are not adopting him due to his 'special need.' We are adopting him because the moment we saw him, we knew. We knew he was meant to be our son. He had a twinkle in his eye & his smile...we just knew. We would be adopting him no matter if he could hear or not.

We do not feel the need to tell people he is deaf, as it doesn't matter to us. If they ask if he speaks English, we will then tell him, but other than that...we do not 'advertise.' I prefer not to tell people, because it seems as soon as they do..the praising starts.

We have been told we are building a stairway to heaven, that we are name it, we have heard it. This may sound wrong...but I HATE it. I am not doing this to be a 'saint.' His hearing does not change the way I felt about him when I first saw him. His hearing does not change the way we will parent him...he will have every opportunity we would have given a hearing child...we are not doing this for a gold star, a free pass at the pearly gates, whatever you want to call it. I don't want the praise, I do not want to hear about how amazing we are. We are not! We are just a couple that fell in love with a boy & knew he was the missing piece to our family.

I had heard people talk about how others would say things like this when they just said they were adopting & I knew it would be annoying, but I had no idea just how much it would bother me. I had no idea how 'bad' it would be because we were adopting a waiting child.

If I were giving birth to a child & he happened to be deaf, nobody would be telling me I am building my stairway to heaven, so why now?!

I am just me...I am just A's mom. I am nobody special because of who my son is. But I do not think the comments will get better. Am I wrong to be so annoyed by them?!

Saturday, October 26, 2013


We got our first update on our lil man last night. (we will all him A)

I cannot get over how fast he is growing already! I feel like he is losing his baby fat cheeks & they cut his hair, he looks like a lil grown up man. He is so tall too..the 95% tile for US babies his age, so a tall guy. I cried when I saw his pictures. I already feel like I am missing out on so much & he is literally growing up before my eyes.

They say he likes to hold paper towel rolls & act like he is singing; imitating what he sees on TV. He also picks up after his foster sister...a child after my own heart, HA! They say next month they will take video of him, so I cannot wait for that.

We already have 2 of our 4 homestudies done & will be doing the last 2 all next week. We also have finished getting all our dossier paperwork & already have some of it at the consulate. Hoping to have the rest to the consulate in the next 2 weeks. At this rate the dossier will be done in a month..meaning it only took us 2 months! We are going as fast as we can...we want A home!

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Fast Forward

We are on super fast mode to get our lil man home. The thought of having him in another country one day longer than he has to be breaks our heart. So it has not even been a month since we decided to adopt this little sweet heart & we already have done all our homestudy paperwork & had our first visit. We have 3 more visits to do & have them all scheduled & will be done with them by November first. So that means 1 visit next week and 2 visits the week after that. We are already over half way done with our dossier paperwork as we are chugging right along.

My head is still spinning & there are days that I look at his picture & cannot believe he is my son. Even a month and a half ago, I could have never imagined I would be in this spot, working on everything to bring my son home.

So nuts, but I love it. I love seeing our families so excited & I love the way G lights up when he talks about him. (I'm totally understanding this 'your husband is so sexy as a dad' thing!)

Our goal is to have everything done & in for the dossier by January. Originally it was February...but the way it's going, we now thing January is plenty of time!!!
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