Thursday, October 31, 2013
We do not feel the need to tell people he is deaf, as it doesn't matter to us. If they ask if he speaks English, we will then tell him, but other than that...we do not 'advertise.' I prefer not to tell people, because it seems as soon as they do..the praising starts.
We have been told we are building a stairway to heaven, that we are angels...you name it, we have heard it. This may sound wrong...but I HATE it. I am not doing this to be a 'saint.' His hearing does not change the way I felt about him when I first saw him. His hearing does not change the way we will parent him...he will have every opportunity we would have given a hearing child...we are not doing this for a gold star, a free pass at the pearly gates, whatever you want to call it. I don't want the praise, I do not want to hear about how amazing we are. We are not! We are just a couple that fell in love with a boy & knew he was the missing piece to our family.
I had heard people talk about how others would say things like this when they just said they were adopting & I knew it would be annoying, but I had no idea just how much it would bother me. I had no idea how 'bad' it would be because we were adopting a waiting child.
If I were giving birth to a child & he happened to be deaf, nobody would be telling me I am building my stairway to heaven, so why now?!
I am just me...I am just A's mom. I am nobody special because of who my son is. But I do not think the comments will get better. Am I wrong to be so annoyed by them?!
Posted by PCOSChick at 10:49 AM