Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Y Chromosome

Yep, good ole Y chromosome, this is why my husband is infertile...he has a defect. From the research we have done online there are 3 types of Y chromosome defects. 2 of these can be worked with & are still fine for IVF, 1 is not. Here is the kicker though...this defect has a VERY high chance of being passed on to a child & making that kid infertile as well.

How do you knowingly pass something on to your child that has caused you so much pain? I know by the time our child is older technology will be different, IF probably will be a thing of the past..but still. What if we pass on infertility and more? How can we do that?

We are going to still do another SA test here in a few weeks & then go back to the reproductive urologist to learn more about this defect, but I think we have pretty much made up our mind.

IVF was short lived for us...we are ok with this. We knew something may come up & it would be a possibility we could not try IVF. We are disappointed, but we will be ok. We now have answers, so that is nice...for years we did not know.

Now how was my hubby so lucky to get this? We will never know...but it is what it is.

Adoption has never been a 2nd best for us. So the plan is to start back on the adoption path next year.

5 comments:

  1. I will be praying for you guys! You will be great parents some day no matter what.

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  2. I understand exactly how you feel. I've always had this fear in the back of my mind that if we had a girl, she'd very likely have PCOS, and I don't want to subject her to that. It's been a difficult road, learning how to deal with it, and it wouldn't be fair of me to 'force' her into it too. We're going to start the adoption process in 5-10 years though, when we have a more stable home and finances.
    I truly hope that you and Hubs can become parents soon!

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  3. At least you know, and can make decisions based on that! That in and of itself is a relief.

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  4. Glad you found out!!! My dh has azoo too, so I'm here if you ever need to chat :)

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  5. here from ICLW. Sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis and how how have had to rearrange your plans around it. MFI is part of our diagnosis as well. I can relate to what you write here as we have been receiving tests results for both of us over the past few months and it feels like the news is never good (that is not entirely true; it always could be worse but it's easy to focus on what is abnormal). The added twist of possibly passing IF onto your children makes the decisions even more complex.

    It sounds like you have considered all your options though and are OK with going the adoption path. I think it's important to have a Plan A, B and even C when dealing with IF because nothing is guaranteed to work and every case is so different. We assumed for months that IVF would work for us, and maybe it still will but we also have to be prepared for it not to work.

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