Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Question Answered

Well, here we are at the end of November-National Adoption Month is coming to an end. I want to thank you all who supported my post this month & those of you that did not care for some of them-thank you for voicing your opinion & making me think about things I had not before.

I had said I would end this month by answering your questions & I actually only received one...so here is the question. In the meantime, if you guys have any more questions, I am more than happy to answer!


Nicole said...

My husband and I have been considering adoption for some time. Due to the financial aspect we have been thinking more along the lines of a national adoption from foster care, but I have always been interested in international adoption. The biggest obstacle to this is of course financial, so I guess I am curious as to how much it is costing, what all have you had to do in order to be able to adopt internationally, and how long does it take?

Thank you!
Nicole

Nicole-
We started our paperwork for our Dossier in Januaray of this year & finished it in October. Now of course, you can do it faster than that, however due to jobs & getting where we needed to, etc. ours took a bit. We started the entire process, as far as researching to find an agency, taking our adoption classes, & more back in October of 2009. 

I know finances can be a worry, I think it is to a lot of people, unless you are Angelina Jolie! We decided not to let money play a role when we were choosing anything. We just knew somehow we would make it work out. I have not kept track of what we have spent to this point & I do not want to know when it's all said & done how much we spent. I just know we are going to be ok & everything will work. (Easier said than done sometimes) I will admit, I freaked at first, wasn't sure how we could do it-but once I stopped worrying, it worked out a lot better! 

Our agency told us to expect 40,000 with travel & everything. Now, to save money we have been working on our hotel & airline points, as that can help in that cost department. 

Now, I know I mentioned the Dossier earlier, this is something that you have to do with international adoption & not domestic. This consist of everything from marriage liscense & birth certificates, to multiple rounds of fingerprints, essays & pictures. There are options that you have when it comes to your dossier. You can hire a dossier "agency" & have them do it for you or you can do it yourself. I did ours & it can be a lot of stuff to get together-just make sure you are very well organized.

As far as time goes, we are into it almost 14 months since we started everything & figure we have another year to 2 years.

Hope this helped, if you have anything else I can help with, please feel free to let me know!

Monday, November 29, 2010

8 Myths and Realities About Adoption

Here are some common myths when it comes to adoption. Have you heard these before?

MYTH
There are very few babies being placed for adoption.
REALITY
20,000 or more U.S.-born infants are placed for adoption each year—as many or more than the number of international adoptions yearly.

MYTH
Adoption is outrageously expensive, out of reach for most families.
REALITY
Adoption is often no more expensive than giving birth.Costs to adopt domestically average $15,000, before the $10,000 Adoption Tax Credit and benefits that many employers offer.

MYTH It takes years to complete an adoption.
REALITY The average time span of adoption is one to two years. The majority of domestic and international
adopters who responded to a recent poll by Adoptive Families Magazine completed their adoptions
in less than a year.

MYTH Birthparents can show up at any time to reclaim their child.
REALITY Once an adoption is finalized, the adoptive family is recognized as the child’s family by law. Despite the publicity surrounding a few high-profile cases, post-adoption revocations are extremely rare.

MYTH Birthparents are all troubled teens.
REALITY Most birthparents today are over 18, but lack the resources to care for a child. It is generally
with courage and love for their child that they terminate their parental rights.

MYTH Adopted children are more likely to be troubled than birth children.
REALITY Research shows that adoptees are as well-adjusted as their non-adopted peers. There is virtually
no difference in psychological functioning between them.

MYTH Open adoption causes problems for children.
REALITY Adoptees are not confused by contact with their birthparents. They benefit from the increased
understanding that their birthparents gave them life but their forever families take care of and nurture them.

MYTH Parents can’t love an adopted child as much as they would a biological child.
REALITY Love and attachment are not the result of nor guaranteed by biology. The intensity of bonding
and depth of emotion are the same, regardless of how the child joined the family.

**note:this article came from Adoptive Families Magazine in 2000**

Sunday, November 28, 2010

America's Best Adoption-Friendly Workplaces List

Each year, the Dave Thomas Foundation announces a list of employers with the best adoption benefits in the nation.

Rankings are based on the maximum amount of financial reimbursement and paid leave for employees who adopt. Honorees include the top 100, the top ten by size and the top five in each industry. 

1   Wendy's/Arby's Group, Inc.
2   Citizen's Financial Group, Inc. / RBS Americas
3   Liquidnet (tie)
3   LSI Corporation (tie)
5   Putnam Investments
6   Vanguard Group
7   Subaru of America, Inc.
8   BHP Billiton
9   The Timberland Company
10 Barilla America, Inc.   
For a full list of the top 100, visit here 
Do you work at any of these companies? Have you found this to be true?! 

Saturday, November 27, 2010

From Foster Care to Adoption: One Family’s Story Disproves Myths

I found this article & thought it was really a great article. It really touches on some of the myths & truths people tend to think about when it comes to adopting. (found here)


From Foster Care to Adoption: One Family’s Story Disproves Myths

National Adoption Month Finds Matthews Family Celebrating, Spreading the Word to Other Families About Adoption Services from EMQ FamiliesFirst
CAMPBELL, Calif.--(BUSINESS WIRE)--For the Matthews family the foster care-adoption process has not only transformed the lives of some terrific kids in need but also the lives of the Matthews themselves. EMQ FamiliesFirst (EMQFF) (http://www.emqff.org/services/foster.shtml) helps families in 36 California counties through the foster care-adoption process. During November, National Adoption Month (http://www.emqff.org/press/pressroom/adoption_month.shtml) the agency will celebrate these families that disprove common myths about the foster-to-adoption procedure. EMQ FamiliesFirst is California’s largest children’s services agency.
“but we knew that so many children needed homes.”
Myth: Only people with a “perfect” history can adopt.
Reality: Sometimes, a parent’s previous life experience can be the best gift to a child. Perfection is not a requirement.
Even before Sarah Matthews and her husband were married, she knew she wanted to adopt children in need. She had spent a brief amount of time in a caring foster home as a teen and had known a number of children “in the system.” She knew they deserved better. Her future husband caught her enthusiasm. “We didn’t know what our family was going to look like,” said Sarah, “but we knew that so many children needed homes.” They have ended up with a still-growing family full of diverse ethnicities and ages, yet full of love and care.
Myth: There is too much “red tape” and bureaucracy involved in adopting a child from foster care.
Reality: Congress has streamlined the foster care adoption process through the Safe Families Act of 1997. Children that are not reunited with their birth parents are matched with permanent adoptive families as efficiently as possible.
The Matthews had one biological child before four-year-old Amy came to them as a foster child. “Amy’s adoption took roughly 18 months and went smoothly,” said Sarah.
Myth: Only infants are in need of being adopted.
Reality: The majority of foster children are six years and older.
The next additions to the Matthews family were half-sisters, five-year-old Sophia and eight-month-old Amanda. Being of Native American descent added the additional pre-adoption requirement of formally notifying their tribe, but the adoptions were still complete in just over two years.
Myth: Birth parents can take their children back.
Reality: Once parental rights are terminated, the birth parents have no further recourse for gaining custody of the children.
“Sometimes when you say the words ‘foster parent’ it can be intimidating to people,” Sarah said. “They say things like, ‘Oh, I could never handle giving them back.’ While those are valid concerns, each obstacle can be overcome. Our family is proof of that.”
The Matthews are so thrilled with their growing family and the foster-to-adoption process that they are planning a foster parent party to help spread the word about becoming a foster parent. “We want to encourage others to open their hearts to the possibility of adopting,” said Sarah. The Matthews also have thrown a party to celebrate each completed adoption within their own family. “We make a whole day of it. We invite our family and friends and have our pastor say a special prayer for our family. The gathering afterwards is quite a party – emotional, but incredible,” said Sarah.
Myth: Adoptive families are “on their own” after adoption is finalized.
Reality: EMQ FamiliesFirst offers post-adoption services, including clinical services, support groups and financial assistance.
EMQ FamiliesFirst adoption services continue long after the paperwork is finalized. From beginning to end, adoption social workers help with the legal process, work with families during the adoption-level home study, and make sure the adoptive assistance program is in place. We advocate for the family and facilitate between the family and the county. If a child needs mental health services, we’ll make a referral to best help that child.
The Matthews feel they still have room in their hearts and their home for a larger family and expect to complete another adoption soon. “We set out to improve the lives of children and have learned that it is our own lives that have been changed for the better,” said Sarah.
About EMQ FamiliesFirst
EMQ FamiliesFirst http://www.emqff.org/about/agency/backgrounder.shtml does whatever it takes to help children and families in crisis. The agency is recognized for innovative mental health treatment, foster care and social services that help families recover from trauma, abuse and addiction, and rebuild their lives. EMQ FamiliesFirst fights for sustainable change and advocates for improvements in the local, state and federal systems that serve children in need. For more information, please visit http://www.emqff.org.

Friday, November 26, 2010

Famous Adoptees & Adopters

Adoptees
Andy Berlin - entrepreneur: chairman of Berlin Cameron & Partners
Anthony Williams - politician
Aristotle - philosopher
Art Linkletter - comedian
Bo Diddley - musician, performer
Buffy Sainte-Marie - musician, actress
Carl-Theodor Dreyer - Danish film director
Charlotte Anne Lopez - Miss Teen USA
Christina Crawford - author
Clarissa Pinkola Estes - author
Crazy Horse - Lakota war chief
Dan O'Brien - decathlete
Daunte Culpepper - football player
Dave Thomas - entrepreneur: founder of Wendy's
Debbie Harry - singer
D.M.C. - hip hop artist
Edgar Allan Poe - poet, writer
Edward Albee - playwright
Eleanor Roosevelt - First Lady
Eric Dickerson - athlete
Faith Daniels - news anchor
Faith Hill - country singer
Freddie Bartholomew - actor
George Washington Carver - inventor
Greg Louganis - athlete
James MacArthur - actor
James Michener - author
Jean Jacques Rousseau - philosopher
Jesse Jackson - minister
Jesus - adopted by Joseph the carpenter (Bible)
Jett Williams - country singer and author
Jim Palmer - athlete
John J. Audubon - naturalist
John Hancock - politician
John Lennon - musician
Langston Hughes - poet and writer
Larry Ellison - entrepreneur: chief executive of Oracle
Lee Majors - actor
Leo Tolstoy - writer
Les Brown - motivational speaker
Lynnette Cole - Miss USA 2000
Malcolm X - civil rights leader
Mark Acre - athlete
Matthew Laborteaux - actor
Melissa Gilbert - actress
Michael Reagan - author, talk show host
Moses - Biblical leader
Nancy Reagan - First Lady
Nat King Cole - singer
Nelson Mandela - politician
Patrick Labyorteaux - actor
Peter and Kitty Carruthers - figure skaters
President Gerald Ford - politician
President William Clinton - politician
Priscilla Presley - actress
Ray Liotta - actor
Reno - performance artist, comedian
Sarah McLachlan - singer
Scott Hamilton - figure skater
Sen. Paull H. Shin - politician
Sen. Robert Byrd - politician
Steve Jobs - entrepreneur: co-founder of Apple computer
Surya Bonaly - figure skater
Tim Green - football player/commentator
Tim McGraw - country singer
Tom Monaghan - entrepreneur
Tommy Davidson - comedian
Victoria Rowell - actress
Wilson Riles - educator

Adoptive Parents
Al Roker - news anchor
Alfre Woodard - actress
Alexander the Great - King of Macedonia, 356-323 B.C.
Angelina Jolie - actress
Art Buchwald - comedian
Barbara Walters - journalist
Ben Stein - actor and game show host
Bette Davis - actress
Billy Bob Thornton - actor, writer, singer
Bob (and Delores) Hope - entertainer
Brooke Adams - actress
Burt Reynolds - actor
Calista Flockhart - actress
Cecil B. De Mille - film director
Charles Bronson - actor
Chelsea Noble - actress
Connie Chung - news anchor
Dale Evans - singer
Dan Marino - athlete
Dan Wilson - athlete
David E. Kelley - television producer
Diane Keaton - actress
Dianne Wiest - actress
Donna Mills - actress
Ed McMahon - entertainer
Edie Falco - actress
Erma Bombeck - author
Estelle Parsons - actress
Eve Arden - actress
Father George Clements - minister
Gail Sheehy - writer
Gary Merrill - actor
George Burns - comedian
George Lucas - film director
Gloria Swanson - actress
Gracie Allen - comedian
Harpo Marx - actor
Harry Belafonte - singer
Hedy Lamarr - actress
Helen Hayes - actress
Henry Fonda - actor
Hugh Jackman - actor
Isabella Rossellini - -actress
Jamie Lee Curtis - actress
Jane Fonda - actress
Jane Wyman - actress
Jann Wenner - publisher
Jill Ireland - actress
Jill Krementz - author
JoBeth Williams - actress
Joan Didion - author
Joan Fontaine - actress
John DeLorean - entrepreneur
John Denver - singer
John Gregory Dunne - author
Josephine Baker - singer and dancer
Judy Woodruff - news anchor
Julie Andrews - actress
Karen Grassle - actress
Karl Wallenda - acrobat
Kate Capshaw - actress
Kate Jackson - actress
Kirby Puckett - athlete
Kirk Cameron - actor
Kirstie Alley - actress
Kris Kristofferson - singer
Kurt Vonnegut - author
Linda Ronstadt - singer
Loni Anderson - actress
Louis Gossett, Jr - actor.
Magic Johnson - athlete
Marcia Wallace - actress
Marie Osmond - singer
Maury Povich - news anchor
Meg Ryan - actress
Mercedes Ruehl - actress
Mia Farrow - actress
Michelle Pfeiffer - actress
Natalie Williams - athlete
Nell Carter - entertainer
Nicole Kidman - actress
Oscar de la Renta - designer
Ozzy (and Sharon) Osbourne - musician
Parker Stevenson - actor
Patti LaBelle - singer
Paul Newman - actor
Paula Poundstone - comedian
Pearl Bailey - singer
Peter Falk - actor
President Ronald Reagan - politician
Regina Belle - singer
Richard King Mellon - financier
Robert Fulghum - writer
Rosie O'Donnell - actress
Roy Rogers - entertainer
Sally Jessy Raphaƫl - talk show host
Sammy Davis, Jr. - entertainer
Sen. Jesse Helms - politician
Sen. John McCain - politician
Sen. Lloyd Bentsen - politician
Sen. Paul Simon - politician
Sen. Paull H. Shin - politician
Sen. Kay Bailey Hutchinson - Texas
Sharon Stone - actress
Sir Christopher Guest - actor
Stephen Spielberg - film director
Steven Curtis Chapman - Christian musician
Susan Ruttan - actress
Taurean Blacque - actor
Ted Danson - actor
Teri Garr - actress
Tom Cruise - actor
Valerie Harper - actress
Walt (and Lily) Disney - founder of Disneyland
William Delahunt - politician
Willie Mays - athlete

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Thankful

This Thanksgiving I have so very much to be thankful for!

I am so very thankful for each & everyone of you, my blog readers; also my twitter friends!

I cannot believe that by this time next year, we could have our LP with us, celebrating his or her first Thanksgiving at home.

I am thankful that we are able to become parents through adoption. I feel so blessed that this is an option for us & that our families accept it.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Wordless Wednesday-Casa De Maria

A few pictures of the orphanage where LP will be coming from

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Question & Answers

You have questions & I have answers!

Ask any question about our adoption, about adoption, etc & I will answer it on the last day of the month! I feel it is a great way to end National Adoption Month. So please, ask away!!

Monday, November 22, 2010

International Statistic


Here are some statistics on international adoptions to the US in the last 10 years.  You can go to the United States Intercountry Adoption site for all kinds of news, statistics & more such as this



FY 2009
FY 2008
FY 2007
FY 2006
FY 2005
1
China
3001
Guatemala
4122
China
5453
China
6492
China
7903
2
Ethiopia
2277
China
3911
Guatemala
4727
Guatemala
4135
Russia
4631
3
Russia
1586
Russia
1857
Russia
2303
Russia
3702
Guatemala
3783
4
South Korea
1080
Ethiopia
1724
Ethiopia
1254
South Korea
1373
South Korea
1628
5
Guatemala
756
South Korea
1065
South Korea
938
Ethiopia
731
Ukraine
824
6
Ukraine
610
Vietnam
748
Vietnam
828
Kazakhstan
588
Kazakhstan
755
7
Vietnam
481
Ukraine
490
Ukraine
613
Ukraine
463
Ethiopia
442
8
Haiti
330
Kazakhstan
380
Kazakhstan
547
Liberia
353
India
323
9
India
297
India
308
India
411
Colombia
344
Colombia
287
10
Kazakhstan
295
Colombia
306
Liberia
314
India
319
Philippines
268
11
Philippines
281
Haiti
301
Colombia
309
Haiti
310
Haiti
234
12
China - Taiwan
253
Philippines
292
Philippines
260
Philippines
248
Liberia
183
13
Colombia
238
Liberia
254
Haiti
191
China - Taiwan
187
China - Taiwan
141
14
Nigeria
110
China - Taiwan
219
China - Taiwan
184
Vietnam
163
Mexico
88
15
Ghana
103
Nigeria
149
Mexico
89
Mexico
70
Poland
73
16
Mexico
72
Mexico
105
Poland
84
Poland
67
Thailand
71
17
Uganda
69
Ghana
97
Thailand
66
Nepal
66
Brazil
66
18
Thailand
56
Kyrgyzstan
78
Brazil
55
Brazil
66
Nigeria
65
19
Jamaica
54
Poland
77
Kyrgyzstan
54
Nigeria
62
Jamaica
62
20
Poland
50
Thailand
59
Uganda
54
Thailand
56
Nepal
62




 
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