Sunday, October 31, 2010

Homestudy Approved

Wow! We are officially homestudy approved. This is exciting, scary, nerve wracking & so much more all balled into 1 thing.

It has taken us over a year to get to this point & now we start on a new venture in this adoption journey....now we wait. We have a lot to do while we wait, so I am hoping that helps the wait go a bit faster for us.

It's weird to think that we really, at this point can adopt! They can really come to us & say there is a baby & we can adopt!! That is just so crazy, because sometimes I felt we would never get to this point.

My DH was so cute tonight. I asked him what he was most excited about & his response...a face, he cannot wait for LP to have a face! It was so cute & the excitement is really setting in.

I also want to thank you all for the love, support & enthusiasm, it means so much!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Angry Rant

We all started blogging for a reason. No matter if we came here to just get stuff off our chest or needed support-we all came for a reason. No where in the reason that each of started blogging did we sign up for ridicule, hate & stupidity.

I love this community! I love each & everyone of you & the support you all bring. I love to see the support & comfort each person has for the other. I would stand up for any of you; no matter what too...that is part of this community. I respect the decisions you make or did not make. I respect why you did this or that & if you did what was best for you & your family, I back you 110%.

It has made me VERY sad to see some the hate that has been going on here lately. I am a big believer in everyone having the right to their opinion, but I am also a big believer in what you learned when you were little: if you do not have anything nice to say, do not say anything at all!!

I hate that I feel that I cannot say something I may want to on here because I may have somebody rip me a new one. But I guess since you have the right to leave crappy comments, I too have the right to delete them.

I respect your opinions, but I would hope that you respect my feelings or whoever you feel the need to leave a comment for. There is a way to voice your opinion & not be a complete A$% about it!

I am sorry for those of you that have been dealing with this lately! I may loose a few blog followers because of this post, but if that is the case, then so be it!

I do not want to worry about what I say & I do not want others to either...so please, if you do not agree wit whatever we say, just be as nice as possible about it!

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Spilling the Beans-to a Stranger

I have officially become that crazy lady that tells a perfect stranger EVERYTHING! How did this happen?! I mean, when did I become this lady? Maybe it was the long week at work, or the tiff I got in with my DH before he left work?

I went to look at Target for new frames for my glasses & the next thing I know...she knows we are adopting, she know where...she even asked our name options & I told. WTH?! How did this even start? Something about Lasiks & how I was saving money for our adoption....ugh

So yes, I am that crazy lady...the lady I have NO idea how I became & for sure cannot be again.

But hey, if the gal from Target is reading my blog...HI! Welcome :) (yep...gave her my card...hehe)

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

THE Names

Well, we had THE NAMES! We have had them for a while now; no questions asked, this was what LP would be named if he were a boy or if she were a girl.

I will admit, my DH came up with the boys name & it was ok to me. I've tried to love it, I've tried to let it grow on me.  I didn't want to say anything to my hubby as I wanted to try to give it time. Yesterday however, after a few months of thinking these were it, these were our names..I gave in..I told him I wasn't in love with our Boy name. He proceeded to tell me he was still ify on our Girl name & apparently had been feeling the same as me!

So we are back at the drawing board. We both have unique names & would like to try to stick with that for our LP. We do not care if it's a more common name with an unusual spelling or just an unique name. We do know that we do not want LP to be sitting in a classroom of 5 other kids with the same name...so no popular names for us.

We have narrowed the girl names back to 2; 1 which still happens to be the one we had originally picked (funny how that works), but boys...well we have a lot of work ahead of us!

Sunday, October 17, 2010

News Update!

I've been a bad blogger!! When you are working almost 80 hours a week, it tends to get in the way of life!! These 3 crazy months a year at work always make me so angry with work...I hate living there, but then I have to step back & think. This job has given me & now my DH so many options, especially when it comes to bringing out LP home. I am also so very thankful, that this will probably be my LAST time i have to work like this during the busy months, as I am really hoping that by this time next year, LP is home with us & I will be working from home!

This past week brought a lot of good for our adoption process!! We got word that the adoption agency was accepting our 12 hour adoption class last year at the local hospital as all our training hours we needed for both our state & the Hague Convention, so that was awesome! Then we found out that the last reference letter for our homestudy came, which means the homestudy is now complete & we just need them to say APPROVED! Then the FINAL, I mean final thing came for ALL of our adoption paperwork, my FBI fingerprints. My fingerprints, along with the pictures of our home for the judge in Colombia will be mailed this week & then that is it!! A year after we started this paper chase, we are DONE!!

I cannot believe we are really here. Now we begin the official wait...the paper pregnancy. I have a lot planned to keep me busy during this time. I will start getting things in place at a hospital about an hour away that has an international adoption program & can work with us when we receive our referral. I feel so very lucky that we have a program such as this so close & they specialize in international adoption, as this will help us on so many levels. I also plan are starting to look for a pediatrician. I have had several recommendations from friends, so I will be checking them out, but would love to also try to find somebody with adoption experience, so we will see.

We will also be working on the nursery & getting that all situated (I will post pictures, I promise). And then the big thing...we will start registering. I know after talking to some adoptive parents (most domestic however) they all said wait until after the referral. With us, since we will get our referral, run to the hospital to have it looked at, accept or deny & then travel all within a short period..I figured let's do the registering now to be safe. My BFF is dying to have a baby shower too. I haven't decided if I think we should do it before or after LP comes home....I have plenty of time to decide on that.

There is so much more to talk about...but I don't want to bore you too much all at once!! I cannot tell you how much the love & support has meant to me over the past year. I would have never sanely (as sanely as possible) made it to this point without you al...so thank you!

Monday, October 11, 2010

Meet Me Monday!

I decided to try something a bit different that I saw over on the lovely Kailin's blog-so here it goes! Get to know a bit more about me:)

1) Do your pants get hung on a hanger or folded? All of my pants, unless they are like yoga pants or sweats are hung up

2) If you are stranded on an Island, what 3 things would you need to have with you (not including humans or electronic devices)? This is a tough one! My Little Foot from the Land Before Times that I have had since I was 6, my husband & I's engagement picture & Apple Juice.

3) Where is the farthest you have ever traveled to? Japan

4) Do you live in a house, trailer, or apartment, etc? House

5) What is your most hated household chore? I am not sure if this counts or not...but going to the grocery store! I despise it!! If that doesn't count....probably washing the dishes that don't fit or cannot go in the dishwasher.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

A Family Is A Family

What is a family? Do you have to birth your child to be a mother? Does your sperm have to make the baby that calls you father?

Today's families are so different & evolving & I love it! I love that there is something like IVF & adoption. I am happy that families have so many options when becoming a family. Now, if only we could get more people to fully accept all of these ways of becoming a family...but that is another post!

My DH & I were lucky enough to watch Rosie O'Donnell's A Family is a Family last night & I am in LOVE!! This documentary is so amazing! If you have not seen it, please take a moment to (It's on HBO In Demand). It touches on everything from biracial parents, gay & lesbian families, adoptions & IVF...its perfect! I highly recommend that you see it & try to get your families to watch it.

I love the way it deals with this topic in a fun cute way...from a child's perspective. I have added a preview to this documentary & would LOVE to hear what you have to say if you get to watch...I cannot recommend it enough!!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Wordless Wednesday-More Nursery

This will be behind the crib

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Birthmother Love


Without birthmothers, there would be no adoption. I think a lot of times in international adoption the birthmothers are forgotten or pushed to the side. I may never know about LP's birthmother or birthfather for that matter; this is a risk my DH & I know we are taking.

I often wonder about LP's birthmother. Is she pregnant right now? Does she love LP as much as I do already? Does she understand that LP will be given the best possible home & not a day will go by that we are not forever be grateful for the gift she has given us.

Why am I thinking about LP's birthmother now when there may not even be an LP yet? I can thank a customer for this. Today I received an email from a customer about a product in our generic contact us from our website. After writing the lady back she responded. This response came through blank, only the signature of her email was there. Her signature simply stated "birthmothers never forget."

I wanted to write this woman, that I didn't know, this woman who just asked a simple question about an item & thank her. Thank her for the gift she gave her adoptive parents. I didn't feel it was work appropriate, so I was unable to; but I can only hope that this lovely woman knows how amazing she is. The same as I hope LP's mother will also know.

I hope that each & everyone of these birthmother's realize how truly in aww of them I am. How I could never be a mother if it were not for their selflessness...so to this customer, to LP's birthmother, to all the birthmothers...from the bottom of my heart: THANK YOU. You will never forget, but neither will I.
 
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