Monday, November 29, 2010

8 Myths and Realities About Adoption

Here are some common myths when it comes to adoption. Have you heard these before?

There are very few babies being placed for adoption.
20,000 or more U.S.-born infants are placed for adoption each year—as many or more than the number of international adoptions yearly.

Adoption is outrageously expensive, out of reach for most families.
Adoption is often no more expensive than giving birth.Costs to adopt domestically average $15,000, before the $10,000 Adoption Tax Credit and benefits that many employers offer.

MYTH It takes years to complete an adoption.
REALITY The average time span of adoption is one to two years. The majority of domestic and international
adopters who responded to a recent poll by Adoptive Families Magazine completed their adoptions
in less than a year.

MYTH Birthparents can show up at any time to reclaim their child.
REALITY Once an adoption is finalized, the adoptive family is recognized as the child’s family by law. Despite the publicity surrounding a few high-profile cases, post-adoption revocations are extremely rare.

MYTH Birthparents are all troubled teens.
REALITY Most birthparents today are over 18, but lack the resources to care for a child. It is generally
with courage and love for their child that they terminate their parental rights.

MYTH Adopted children are more likely to be troubled than birth children.
REALITY Research shows that adoptees are as well-adjusted as their non-adopted peers. There is virtually
no difference in psychological functioning between them.

MYTH Open adoption causes problems for children.
REALITY Adoptees are not confused by contact with their birthparents. They benefit from the increased
understanding that their birthparents gave them life but their forever families take care of and nurture them.

MYTH Parents can’t love an adopted child as much as they would a biological child.
REALITY Love and attachment are not the result of nor guaranteed by biology. The intensity of bonding
and depth of emotion are the same, regardless of how the child joined the family.

**note:this article came from Adoptive Families Magazine in 2000**


  1. I have to say that I do not know a lot about adoption, and that I can say I learned at least one new thing from your post!

  2. Interesting although I wonder if the waiting averages are still that short. (This article looks to be 10 years old). I've heard people adopting from China are now waiting 3-5 years, and that's more on the 5 year side. As for us, well domestically we're skewing the average towards the long wait as well since we've been waiting 17 months.

  3. Great information to share. I'm sure it's hard to calculate wait times. We only waited 4 months before being matched domestically. Thanks for posting!

  4. Wow, I learned something there! Adorable blog!


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